Hello Friends!
Since working on this tool I've been trying to be more aware of my responses to my emotions. I tend to go more inward so my responses would be more... quit helping, quit talking, blaming, and then I would get triggered and/or push away from people.
If you are more of an external person you might be intense, then move to being loud or yelling, then say mean words and finally, push or run away.
Each of these (internal and external) start with not doing something. For example, you're nervous about something and so you don't do it.
Here's the order in which your emotions seem to go....(from bottom to top) This is how you become UPtight. These emotions fill you up. That is why we need to know how to simmer down.
Can you see how this would work? You get nervous so you just don't do it. You think about it more and your emotions increase to worry and so you quit helping or you increase your intensity. You then feel scared and then afraid which leads you to quit talking or being loud and even yelling. Then you experience fear and you start blaming or saying mean words. And finally you panic which causes you to be triggered and push away or run away.
Which one seems more like you?
I go inward. So, I need to look for when I don't do something. If I miss that cue, then I need to look for when I quit helping then quit talking... and so forth.
These emotions and responses would also be good things to look for when I'm doing my writing.
This tool is a great preventative measure, but if you don't use it to prevent, then start meditating and writing when you see those cues.
Do you see any of those cues coming up in your life?
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